Unsure when Red can post again - I'd be much less thorough but glad to keep it going if he can't
- but fiinding stuff on family history through photos and online research at the library netted some more cool things. So, I have some people from my great-grandma's mom's side - this is a few years before her mom was born - who can give us a nice, small story to insert. Note: OTL my great-grandmas mom's dad's mom died in August, 1863. I don't know when Red has the4 setback he planned happening, but there's wiggle room ont he dates TTL, as there is on her mom's dad's brother's first wife and the date of her death, which I don't know. I'm glad I can get this much through the library's online ancestry .com account...
"John and his wife, Susan (Susannah to her close friends) walked slowly fromt he graveside. They waited patiently with Kathrine, who was keeping the little ones occupied - their own Mary and Hester and his brother Joseph's.
"She lived a full life," Katherine said solemnly as she ganced away from the small children chasing each other around in the field next tot he cemetery.
"That she did. It's a pity she didn't live to see..." John didn't know how to describe it.
"Some say 'our nation whole again' - but that would be acknowledging they are separated right now,' Katherine said.
John nodded. He turned to see his oldest brother Samuel patted Joseph on the shoulder and walking away, back toward them. "How is he, Samuel?"
"Fine. I suppose. I just hope..." he was at a loss for words.
"I'm sure we'll recover from this. It's not as dire as it was before Union Mills. We have other great commanders," John said. "One of my farmhands volunteered himself early on and came home, injured."
Samuel nodded. "I know. It's nice he has you to help with his family. I was really thinking more about... well..." He glanced back at Joseph.
Susan seemed to know what he was thinking. "I know when I spoke to your late wife, she would always rave about how wonderful it was that her sister and Joseph were in love, too."
"Yes. A marriage which was long enough to produce children; unlike ours. I've told you I met someone; Lydia is here name," he said abruptly.
"You went off to war, I suspect, partly because of your loss," Susan suggested.
"Well, I was drafted, actually. But, I had been pondering it. I'm looking at taking a merchant's position down in Franklin County; LYdia would gow ith me," Samuel admitted. "Yet I really want to see..."
Joseph returned from the graveside. Several others asked if he'd said his goodbyes to their mother, Mary.
"I did. I know we'll see her again. I thought a little about the war while I was there. The crushing defeats, followed by huge victories. The incredible back and forth tug-of-war which is happening with this country, going toward freedom, and then back toward the evils of slavery. Yes, I thought about al of that."
Samuel looked a little disappointed, but he got a grin on his face, a look of hope, toward the end.
"I thought about how President LIncoln had vetoed what seemed like a perfectly good planto bring the rebels back in; I couldn't understand it. But, maybe it's part of that endless tug of war; maybe the Lord allowed it so that we could get something better, something that would allow us to finally defeat this attitude where some think they can just run roughshod over others like the rebels have been over the black men. And then, I thought of our own lives - and, how thigns have been sicne my Cathy died early this year."
He walked up to Katherine, lovingly tuook her hands in his, and smiled.
"My siblings tease me because your name is so similar to my Cathy's. You helped out with the little ones since you came to live with us once Cathy was pregnant with ehr second, in your middle teens. I've seen how wonderful you are with the children. Now, please don't think this is a proposal or anything yet. But, I wondered if I could really love again afterward. I've just accepted that you're there to help them and be the woman they need int heir lives, and I've sort of let things go otherwise.
"But, thinking down there at my mom's graveside, and realizing what I said about that give and take, and how God brings things into peoples' lives in this sin-stained world not just to draw us closer to HIm and to trusting HIm as Saviour, but so they can learn something, or so they can get through things they might otherwise be able to... well, I've come to realize something. I love you with all my heart."
"I love you, too," Katherine said, seemingly hoping the day would come when she heard tht from him.
John patted Joseph on the shoulder after a moment, as did Samuel, who said he had been hoping for that.
"That's right," John said. "We have some awful things going on becasue of people who put their own selfish interests ahead of their duty to others. But, we will be one nation again; I think the president is committed to making sure that country is committed todoing what's right. Who knows if the Lord put it into his heart to do that just so we'd get something better, knowing it wasn't good enough."
"I suppose so. You're right; as much trouble as we've seen, I know we can get through it. As a family, and as a country," Joseph said.
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Note: I don't know if this is how it happened OTL. I do know this about John (my ancestor) and his older siblings:
1. 2 of them did marry young ladies who were sisters.
2. Samuel's wife did die early, while Joseph at least had several children with his wife. (There are a few other siblings, too, of John's.)
3. Samel had been drafted, as per the Civil War registry note I found via the library's online subscription to ancestry.com, and bck home by July 1, 1863 when a registry of all males at that time was made.
4. Samuel remarried in early 1864, while Joseph - lost his wife in 1863 - remarried in early 1865 and had several children with his 2nd wife, also.
Whether that 2nd wife was someone he knew beforehand, I don't know, but someone had to be helping take care of the kids, and this seems very plausible. Plus, it just makes a cool story with the backdrop of the war and the desire to be one nation again, just like Joseph's desire for a wife again.