Looking back on it, why didn't people in the 1800s have a better handle on sexual abuse? For example, often it's someone known to the family, who uses various tricks and bullying to get the victim to think that it's their fault.
One reason might be the near monopoly of one of the first major news syndicate by either AP or UPI.* I've read that they got much cheaper telegraph rates along rail lines, so they certainly didn't include too many stories critical of railroads. I've read that they didn't do anything approaching a fair job of covering issues affecting Mexican-Americans, and probably a number of other issues as well. So, if we had had just better journalism in general, situations where young women are promised jobs in hotels, and then they're often sexually assaulted the first time and then bullied into prostitution, that could he covered and we might have a more effective Mann Act. And we can envision a situation where prostitution is legal, but various fraud is not and is able to be matter-of-factly prosecuted by the legal systems of most states. And if you can't, you're considered way behind the times.
Maybe less censorship, so instead of ministers and furtive conversations being the only discussion of sex, you actually have something responsible and realistic in the middle.
As an example of something not discussed, I saw on C-SPAN the author of Fire Shut Up in My Bones. He was sexually abused all through childhood by a cousin. He thought about murdering the cousin, instead decided to forgive him. He said that sexual abuse is a violation of trust and a violation of boundaries, which is difficult enough to deal with, but to add to this often because of homophobia or misogyny, the idea that the victim is damaged goods, just makes a bad situation all the more difficult, and often by the very parents and family members who should be supporting and taking care of the child.
Well, we're a long way from where we should be, even today. The author also said that more than 50% of the perpetrators of abuse are themselves under age 18, and until we're honest and realistic about the situation we're not going to be too good at dealing with it.
I want positions that are both pro-sex and pro-respect.
Maybe into the 1800s, although it might be a bit of a stretch, more people could take the view, abstinence is great if you're a spiritual person and you get spiritual benefits, but for the rest of us, it's not all that realistic. Maybe views that masturbation is a great release of tension, a great way to stay out of trouble, and all around not that big a deal, so that teenagers would not feel tremendously guilty about it. Maybe. Why not.
* I apologize for the previous typo, which the so-called spellchecker made worse. And, I think AP was the near monopoly, and UPI the outfit which belatedly challenged it.