AHC: Make polyamory more popular

My point is that, even those averages are suspect because data collection doesn't isolate social or psychological factors. And considering how much scientific studies (of which continue to be cited to this day) either don't involve women or have far too few sample sizes of women to draw any correlation, it throws the entire research into question. Furthermore, sex drives have nothing to do with having sex with multiple different partners. Let's assume women have lower sex drives. Why does this mean they'll be romantically and sexually exclusive to one man? How does that make sense?

Also Ottoman harems weren't primarily for sex and sultans didn't always fuck every single one of their wives. A majority of the women in harems weren't even wives but servants for the wives. Selection of wives was based off of the capacity to entertain the Sultan through poetry, dance, or music as well as literacy and knowledge of the Qur'an (from what I understand). It wasn't comparable to a millionaire hiring prostitutes and pornstars to stay at his mansion. Adultery was also common in harems. It turns out women get bored of just one guy and being a part of a harem is just as much a political or social mobility move as it is any sort of real romantic interest.

Polyamory, once again, is men and women having multiple partners. I would like you to explain why you assume women will exclusively be with one man and how this has anything to do with sex drives. In a polyamorous society, why do you assume wives and husbands would even work the same way as they do now?
I specifically did not say women would be exclusively with one man.

As for scientific studies being of low quality, there is enough anecdotal evidence to help corroborate them, even in homosexual couples. Lesbian dead bed is a thing. (Male) gay dead bead? not so much. Which in turn can lead to men satisfying their higher sex drive through multiple partners, some of them of lower sex drive. But not so much with women having 3-4 husbands.
 
So if I understand this is neither polygyny like practiced in the Sahel, nor polyandry practiced in the Himalayas but a form of group marriage. To my knowledge, I think only the Hawaiians, the Yupik, and the Omaha practiced something akin to this- though the Oneida Community also did something like this.

It seems more a unique circumstance than a standard variation of behavior, ie not something specific to culture but rather a small population.
 
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I specifically did not say women would be exclusively with one man.
Your two scenarios were either polygamy or legalized cheating. Both of which are not polyamory.

As for scientific studies being of low quality, there is enough anecdotal evidence to help corroborate them, even in homosexual couples
Anecdotal evidence is suspect by being anecdotal. Because it is based of of the subjective observations of an individual and because what is observed isn't within a controlled environment, a variety of different factors influence the anecdote. That is why anecdotal evidence is never used as support. It is, at most, used as a suggestion for further controlled studies but it is never used as evidence. Anecdotes in particular are very, very susceptible to cultural factors. You'll find thousands of anecdotes confirming, for instance, the existence of spirits, ghosts, gods, and the supernatural and these anecdotes are heavily influenced by belief or predominant social myths and structures.

Yes, lesbian dead bed is a thing but to prove that it is more common among lesbians and specifically because of their biology cannot be proven by anecdotes. Anecdotes are basically biased case studies. They offer nothing in the realm of proving causation nor providing statistics. Furthermore, you still haven't explained why women, if they did have lower sex drives, would specifically be exclusive to one man. If a woman wanted to have sex, why would she have sex with one person in particular? Let's say there was a bisexual man, would he only have sex with one guy in a polyamorous society or would he have sex with multiple partners?

Furthermore, are relationships really always predicated upon sex? Nearly all relationships rely upon some form of romantic attraction and those that don't often lack sexual attraction too.
 
So if I understand this is neither polygyny like practiced in the Sahel, nor polyandry practiced in the Himalayas but a form of group marriage. To my knowledge, I think only the Hawaiians, the Yupik, and the Omaha practiced something akin to this- though the Oneida Community also did something like this.

It seems more a unique circumstance than a standard variation of behavior, ie not something specific to culture but rather a small population of every population.
It is a pretty bold claim to assert that polyamory has existed in every since culture. I would be interested to see how you defend it.
 
I can't, nor did I imply that, I was making a guess considering how rare it appears in history.
Ah I see. Well it doesn't appear we can think of a reason why polyamory is so rare and the existing attempts to explain why in this thread have relied upon ideas that are no longer accepted by historians and don't appear to hold up to scrutiny. I would much rather think of a TL where it might be more popular.
 
Your two scenarios were either polygamy or legalized cheating. Both of which are not polyamory.
Cheating is already legal in most of the world. I'm talking about socially accepted cheating. Which, yes, it's polyamory.

Anecdotal evidence is suspect by being anecdotal. Because it is based of of the subjective observations of an individual and because what is observed isn't within a controlled environment, a variety of different factors influence the anecdote. That is why anecdotal evidence is never used as support. It is, at most, used as a suggestion for further controlled studies but it is never used as evidence. Anecdotes in particular are very, very susceptible to cultural factors. You'll find thousands of anecdotes confirming, for instance, the existence of spirits, ghosts, gods, and the supernatural and these anecdotes are heavily influenced by belief or predominant social myths and structures.

Yes, lesbian dead bed is a thing but to prove that it is more common among lesbians and specifically because of their biology cannot be proven by anecdotes. Anecdotes are basically biased case studies. They offer nothing in the realm of proving causation nor providing statistics. Furthermore, you still haven't explained why women, if they did have lower sex drives, would specifically be exclusive to one man. If a woman wanted to have sex, why would she have sex with one person in particular? Let's say there was a bisexual man, would he only have sex with one guy in a polyamorous society or would he have sex with multiple partners?
For the second time, I've never said the bold part. And yes, anecdotal evidence wouldn't hold water in a peer reviewed paper, but this is an internet forum, not a peer reviewed paper. Peer reviewed papers indicate there is, on average, a sex drive difference between men and women. Which doesn't tell us anything about any individual man or woman, but does give us a hint of how a polyamorous society might develop, because there are biological differences in behavior in all sexual animals, including humans. And those involving sex are particularly adept at being influenced by evolution.
As for a particular bisexual man, it's up to him and his potential partners to define with how many people he has sex with. At a population level, the next question is "How many women find men who have sex with other men attractive?"

Furthermore, are relationships really always predicated upon sex? Nearly all relationships rely upon some form of romantic attraction and those that don't often lack sexual attraction too.
There is a type of relationship between people who love each other very much, share a lot, want to grow old together and do not want to have sex with one another. It's called "friendship".
 
Cheating is already legal in most of the world. I'm talking about socially accepted cheating. Which, yes, it's polyamory.
No it isn't. Polyamory entails that there is no "core" couple which can have multiple partners. What you describe is an open relationship not polyamory.

And yes, anecdotal evidence wouldn't hold water in a peer reviewed paper, but this is an internet forum, not a peer reviewed paper.
So? If you're making a claim about biology or on the basis of statistics, you need actual evidence not anecdotes. The fact that we're on an internet forum doesn't suddenly make anecdotes valid forms of evidence and it doesn't make your claims true. Based on this logic, on internet forms some things are true that would not be true irl or in peer reviewed papers. By that logic, psychic powers exist on the internet but don't exist irl.

How does this make any sense? WTF? Alright, I have anecdotes that prove you wrong. Does this mean I'm right too? We obviously can't be both right, our positions are mutually exclusive. You can find anecdotes that defend any position. That's why anecdotes are shitty evidence. It doesn't matter where we're having this conversation, if you are arguing something is true, that is to say real, then you need more than anecdotes. Something doesn't suddenly become true just because you're talking about it in a different place.

Peer reviewed papers indicate there is, on average, a sex drive difference between men and women.
Once again, such studies do not take into account psychology and social factors. There is a reason why nearly every study discussing differences in male and female libidos has a limitations sections. Studies that have isolated psychological and social factors from the equation have questioned common assumptions about male sex drive (for instance, it appears masturbation frequency rather than testosterone influences male sexual desire).

Speaking of peer-reviewed studies, surely you have some in mind? Could you perhaps provide a link to the studies you believe defend your claim. I will be happy to showcase their deficiencies.

because there are biological differences in behavior in all sexual animals, including humans. And those involving sex are particularly adept at being influenced by evolution.
Sure but that doesn't mean the difference is what you say it is. So far, you've started with a conclusion and reverse engineer evidence to prove it. You've decided that there are biological differences between the sexes and, for some reason, decided that these differences must be in terms of sex drive because of studies you vaguely remember suggesting so and anecdotes you know about. That isn't how science or any sort of logical thinking works.

As for a particular bisexual man, it's up to him and his potential partners to define with how many people he has sex with. At a population level, the next question is "How many women find men who have sex with other men attractive?"
You missed my point. You argued that polygamy would be more common because of gender differences in sexual drives. This means, according to you, more men will have multiple partners than women and, because we're talking about polygamy, this means that women will exclusively be with one man. However, sex drives have nothing to do with the amount of partners you have. Not all relationships are sexual (a majority of the time they aren't) and even if you had a low sex drive, there is no reason for you to exclusively be with one partner. That doesn't make sense.

There is a type of relationship between people who love each other very much, share a lot, want to grow old together and do not want to have sex with one another. It's called "friendship".
Ah yes, husbands and wives are just friends.

All I described was a relationship where sex occurs but isn't based on sex. In other words, a romantic relationship. Do you believe that people need to constantly have sex with each other nonstop for them to be a relationship? Are you kidding me?
 
@juanml82

Just so I put my money where my mouth is, here are some studies that showcase my position. The quoted material is the TL;DR:


In a 2007 study, researchers aimed to find out how much social norms influenced how men and women reported sexual behaviors including masturbation, their number of sexual partners, and watching pornography. The people they studied – all college students – were asked the same set of questions but were split into three groups.

  • One group was told that the research assistants (their college-aged peers) would see their answers.
  • A second group was connected to a lie detector machine and told (incorrectly) that it would know if they were not telling the truth.
  • The third group was not connected to the lie detector during their survey and was also not told that their answers would be seen.
In almost all questions, men and women tended to report different levels of sexual activity when they thought peers would be seeing their answers. Sex differences were much smaller in the lie detector group.

For example, when they believed peers would see their responses, men reported masturbating much more often than women did. But those differences virtually disappeared in the lie detector group.

And when people believed that their peers would see their answers, men reported having about 3.7 sexual partners, while women reported about 2.6. In the lie detector group, men reported about 4.4 sexual partners and women about 4.0.


Despite stereotypes, a significant proportion of men – as many as 1 in 6 – regularly have low levels of sexual desire, meaning low enough for the person to see it as a problem. A 2010 review of multiple studies found that approximately 14% to 19% of men regularly and reliably indicated that they had problematically low or decreased sexual desire.



It’s hard to gauge whether men really want sex more than women when you’re interviewing either men or women in isolation for research. If a man says he wants sex more than his female partner does, how do you know she’d see things the same way?

The few studies that have looked at sexual desire in a “dyadic” relationship – that is, they interviewed opposite-sex couples in a relationship with each other – have pretty consistently found that men are no more or less likely to be the partner who wants more sex, more often.

One of the first studies to find this pattern was done more than 20 years ago. Among group of 72 college-age, heterosexual couples, about half reported that they had similar levels of sexual desire. Among the couples who differed in their desire, about half of those said it was the male partner who wanted sex less often.

More recently, Hunter Murray published a similar study of college-age couples that had much the same results. About half of the couples had similar levels of desire. And among those who did not, men were just as likely as women to be the partner with lower sex drive.

Multiple studies show that men’s and women’s sexual desire levels are more similar than different,” Hunter Murray says. There has not been much research on levels of desire in transgender and nonbinary people.

Gender norms about sex drive are outdated in a lot of ways,” she says. “If there’s something about the way you experience desire that falls in line with a stereotype, that’s fine, but so many of us fall outside of these limited boxes. There are men whose interest in sex ranges from low to none, to very high, and it’s the same for women. As humans, we vary, and as long as your sexual expression is in a healthy way that feels good and right for you [and your partner(s)], chances are your experience is normal.”


This study looks at the libido levels of men and women, having found that the male libido is slightly higher than the female libido by 2 or 3 units. However, the statistics show that there are bigger differences within the genders than between them. This means that the differences between the sexes is smaller than pop culture would have you believe
 
@HumptyDumpty

I think you're taking any and all disagreement extremely personally here. Far be it from me to say how you should react, but I think people are genuinely trying to engage with the prompt to the degree they are able, and yet any amount of skepticism is met with what seems to me as undue hostility. If I'm wrong about this, I apologize. That's not saying you've been unfair or anything, but it just seems to be a trend I'm noticing.
 
Why'd the federal government tell them to stop IOTL? We'd need to eradicate that reason
The early Mormon Church suffered high male mortality rates because of religious prosecution (other Protestant Christian sects), wars with Indians and moving to a harsh, semi-arid part of Utah. This meant that many young men died off before reaching marriable age. This gender imbalance meant that many young women had to marry one man if they all wanted to bear children.
 
@HumptyDumpty

I think you're taking any and all disagreement extremely personally here. Far be it from me to say how you should react, but I think people are genuinely trying to engage with the prompt to the degree they are able, and yet any amount of skepticism is met with what seems to me as undue hostility. If I'm wrong about this, I apologize. That's not saying you've been unfair or anything, but it just seems to be a trend I'm noticing.
I haven't reacted personally at all. In some cases, I've been rather aggressive but that has been, thus far, in opposition to antiquated ideas about men and women. I've only been vehement in arguing against the idea that there are biological drives behind specific social structures and that history can be reduced to different groups "competing" with each other (of which is predicated upon a vulgarization of evolution).

And I have been forward with my opposition to these ideas undoubtedly due to personal reasons; because I know they're wrong and I know the consequences of that line of thinking. Those consequences have been thoroughly negative. This has nothing to do with polyamory perse. I think you'll note that I have been most stanch in opposition to these ideas moreso than any opposition to polyamory itself. I myself have made it clear that polyamory is not all sunshine and roses.

As for engaging with the prompt, most conversations I've had with people on polyamory being more popular have either argued that it is impossible (for rather problematic reasons) or missed the memo and I thought I was talking about polygamy or polyandry. All I have been doing thus far is argue that a TL is possible. That pre-modern societies could be polyamorous and that enough precedent exists for this to be the case. I have even conceded that perhaps a modern society might be more suited for polyamory. I have done this all to just get someone to try to make a TL.
 
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The early Mormon Church suffered high male mortality rates because of religious prosecution (other Protestant Christian sects), wars with Indians and moving to a harsh, semi-arid part of Utah. This meant that many young men died off before reaching marriable age. This gender imbalance meant that many young women had to marry one man if they all wanted to bear children.
The tradition stays today and now young men are often kicked out of Mormon communities once they become teenagers while young women are married off to older men. This is because there is the possibility that 13-14 year old women might find their peers more attractive than old people. This system persists today only out of obedience to the patriarch.
 
That is a large generalization of chiefdoms.
Sure, but it's documented that blood ties between nobles and village leaders was used to stabilise larger states and alliances. This happened in Mesoamerica all the time and influenced political strategy of ambitious rulers like 8 Deer Jaguar Claw. It's documented as being a form of alliance building elsewhere in the Americas.
Anyways, at least in the Middle East, polygyny was not used for this. Polygyny was not relegated to rulers (a majority of polygamous relationships were within the upper middle classes rather than the ruling classes) nor was it used to forge alliances and the like (of which marriage was rather unnecessary). In terms of forging alliances through marriage, polygyny is often unnecessary. Europe managed to go about doing it without polygyny and so did the Middle East despite Islam literally permitting polygyny by legal law. You really don't need to have your son fuck someone else's daughter to form an alliance and it isn't as if such an alliance would be somehow stronger if your son fucked someone else's daughter. Rulers, especially ambitious ones, don't give a rat's ass about blood ties.
Rulers don't care about blood ties? That's a mighty assertion given the endless wars of succession in early modern Europe or numerous other wars over rulers marrying certain women. The point is though that polygyny was used in precisely the way I described.
Polyamory is just men and women have multiple partners (without this being considered adultery). Citrakayah has already given evidence of hunter-gatherer groups and tribes tolerating extra-martial sex and some Amazonian tribes practicing multiple parentage. Was this common? No. But can you make a TL where it is? Of course. The main contention here has been whether pre-modern societies could ever practice polyamory and whether polyamory is "biological" to human beings. These claims have been shown to be false, have shaky foundations, or predicated upon unstated assumptions.
You're focusing too much on the exceptions to the rule, those margins where polyandry (not polyamory) was practiced, rather than actual the rule which appears to be rooted in biology.
That is like saying the reason why the Sentinel Islanders didn't discover iron and tool-making is because a non-existent group of tool-making Sentinel Islanders got out-competed. It doesn't make sense. There are a multitude of possible reasons why polyamory might've not emerged in many societies but biological reasons or "competition" reasons (and I put competition in quotations because we're talking about competition between a non-existent social structure and an existent one) are pretty obviously suspect.
A social structure doesn't need to exist for it to be outcompeted. That should be plain as day from my example. The Sentinelese couldn't one day have decided "let's abandon all our tools except iron tools, whatever "iron" is" because they'd all starve. Same thing as there are no societies where everyone, male and female, has their hands and feets amputated as a rite of passage. Or why there are no animals with wheels instead of legs. Some things are just so inefficient they never evolve to begin with, I don't see why you're having trouble understanding this.
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How can something that doesn't exist "fight" let alone "lose"? That doesn't make sense. If I believe colonizing the moon is impossible, I'm not going to say "colonizing the moon lost". I'm going to say "colonizing the moon isn't possible". That doesn't make sense.
I'm not moving any goalposts, you're just not understanding simple logic (presumably because you're taking everything I said too literally). We can assume if something doesn't exist in any human society, it was so inefficient that it never evolved in the first place, therefore it "lost" (figuratively) and was "outcompeted" (figuratively).
This feels like you're moving goalposts because you made a statement without thinking that you don't really know how to defend.
Sounds more like what you're doing by obsessing over this one point of logic instead of defending your own argument. If polamory is no worse of a social structure in terms of natural selection of society, then please provide evidence for it even existing rather than claiming polyandrous societies are some sort of proof.
And, furthermore, plenty of societies have constructed similar practices independently of other societies. If we're talking about competition, it shouldn't be between different groups (since that doesn't explain the prominence of particular practices) but rather different practices. Treating practices or social structures as organisms separate to the individuals that participate in them makes more sense.
But in the end, the competition is between different groups, because practices die out if the group who uses them dies out, is absorbed into another group, or abandons that practice for some reason (which could range from environmental stress, emulating a successful and wealthy group, etc.). You cannot separate a practice from the group which practices it.
Cultural and social influences are factors as well. Plenty of social practices persist to this day that are not useful nor needed. Sexual abstinence is one of them and a majority of religious prescriptions fall under this category. They persist not because they adapt to changing environments but because they coast off of their inertia. If a group from a polyandrous society went down the mountains and established themselves in some plains, why assume polyandry would stop? Changing the social structure would sever their connection to the society in the mountains and make property transference more difficult. Of course, this hasn't happened but it could've and that is an ATL for how polyandry could be more common in flat regions.
Well that's the thing, why did they move down from the mountain to begin with? A comfortable society tends not to migrate to a radically different environment. Inevitably they'd find themselves influenced by the lowland societies, potentially one they absorbed, and very likely abandon their marital custom.
Similarly, despite the advent of very good birth control, abstinence still remains a very common cultural practice and idea (often enforced upon people against their will). Abortion is opposed despite being a relatively painless and safe procedure. These practices don't persist because they are useful in any way; otherwise they wouldn't be so widely opposed. They coast off of inertia.
That's because abstinence and anti-abortion are the most reasonable ideas from an evolutionary standpoint. Abstinence ensures the paternity of a child is known (giving the father incentive to care for it), protects from STDs which can cause infertility or death, protects women from having children too young (which is more risky), makes it more likely the woman will associate with mature men who will care for her and her offspring, all sorts of things. Abortion kills a potential life (and anti-abortion people argue it kills an actual person), meaning without abortion more children are born to a society which should be very obvious the benefit. Now yes, infanticide was used in numerous cultures and that's analogous to abortion, but often the victims of infanticide were born deformed (or the child of infidelity) which is rather different than aborting a perfectly healthy fetus. The reason that might be cultural inertia is because selection pressures in today's world are much reduced due to technology. We don't have to make as many complex, potentially immoral decisions to survive and thrive.
Monogamy could be in a similar boat. You don't know nor do we have any information or evidence to suggest that it wasn't and that it has consistently, throughout all of its history, been useful for every single condition. After all, as I have shown, practices don't need to always adapt in their geographical environment in order to continue to exist. Ideology, culture, and established social structures heavily influence what practices continue or are created.
Monogamy might be the most advantageous for complex societies because it deals with the problem of unmarried young men lacking reason to settle down which can be plausibly blamed for revolts in Caliphate, the Taiping Rebellion, Islamist extremism (unmarried men make up a number of ISIS/Al-Qaeda fighters), incels, etc. Granted, polygamy and keeping concubines was common too in many complex societies, and even in the modern West serial monogamy and powerful men keeping younger women is common.

Given that societies which practice polyandry are generally not complex, this suggests there's a very good reason why it was never an institutional practice in more complex cultures.
 
Sure, but it's documented that blood ties between nobles and village leaders was used to stabilise larger states and alliances. This happened in Mesoamerica all the time and influenced political strategy of ambitious rulers like 8 Deer Jaguar Claw. It's documented as being a form of alliance building elsewhere in the Americas.
Sure. But A. you don't need polygamy to do that and B. blood ties, as we know historically, weren't nearly the deterrent that they were always meant to be. At least in the Middle East, they were broken apart all the time. That is somewhat of my area of interest.

Rulers don't care about blood ties? That's a mighty assertion given the endless wars of succession in early modern Europe or numerous other wars over rulers marrying certain women. The point is though that polygyny was used in precisely the way I described.
Not in the Middle East. And, in regards to succession wars, that has less to do with familial ties and more to do with people finding themselves with the opportunity for authority over large swathes of land and people and attempting to take that opportunity (or potentially dying as your relatives want to make sure you can't press your claim). I am pretty sure succession wars are the worst evidence of rulers caring about their families and their well-being.

You're focusing too much on the exceptions to the rule, those margins where polyandry (not polyamory) was practiced, rather than actual the rule which appears to be rooted in biology.
Have you actually read the link Citrakayah posted? Because there are multiple cases of men and women having multiple partners. Just within this thread, the Hawaiians were also given as examples of normalized multiple partnership. It was extra-martial sex but it was normalized and would, by all accounts, be considered polyamory by Western society.

This assumption is predicated upon only reading the thread and taking what people say at face value. As for "exceptions to the rule", we're making TLs here. If there is a unique or never-seen before social practice and the challenge is to make it more common, there are ways to do that. If someone challenges you to make political structures like the HRE more popular, are you going to go "the HRE only existed once, there is no way to make it happen in other parts of the world!"? That doesn't make much sense.

rather than actual the rule which appears to be rooted in biology.

Is it really? If there are exceptions, how is it rooted in biology? It isn't as if there are any human beings who breath underwater because it is biologically impossible for people to breath underwater. Sure, maybe there might be a mutation or something that makes human beings biologically capable of doing these things. Are you suggesting polyamorous peoples are biologically different than other people? Are people who adopt children not human beings? Are people who practice polyamory today aliens? If a guy marries a woman with kids, is he biologically different from any other human male?

Thus far, there hasn't even been any evidence actually provided in favor of this. Most people have just made unsubstantiated claims and vaguely gestured towards scientific studies that they don't cite.

A social structure doesn't need to exist for it to be outcompeted
Yes it does. It's like saying bears outcompeted borglorfs. Borglorfs didn't exist. How do you know how they would fare in competition? You assume that, because something didn't exist, it must be impractical or impossible. That isn't the case at all. There are multitudes of reasons why many things don't exist and not all of them are because they can't "compete" (once again, thus far no one has ever defined what competition means in this context).

Alternate history is literally about pitting imaginary societies that never existed against real-life societies that did and realistically considering the consequences. You can't state "a surviving Byzantine Empire would lose WW1 because the Byzantine Empire lost in real life" because that doesn't make sense.

The Sentinelese couldn't one day have decided "let's abandon all our tools except iron tools, whatever "iron" is" because they'd all starve
Is that really true? Let's assume there is a group of Sentinelese people who exclusively use iron (of which they actually have access irl to due to repeated contact with Europeans). Sure, this doesn't exist now and I'm not saying it will either, but whether it does or not isn't dependent upon whether it is "inefficient" but rather whether circumstances allow it. If social, cultural, environmental, and ideological factors align in such a way as to allow it.

For the record, this is what all ATLs are about changing, ultimately. Of course, we primarily concern ourselves with historical social, cultural, environmental, and ideological factors rather than contemporary ones but we are still changing those four factors.

We can assume if something doesn't exist in any human society, it was so inefficient that it never evolved in the first place, therefore it "lost" (figuratively) and was "outcompeted" (figuratively).
Not really. For instance, the printing press never emerged in the Islamic world because the Qu'ran was once printed and it was full of errors. This made the Ottoman Empire ban the printing press.

Now, did scribes outcompete the printing press here? No, of course not. Was the printing press "inefficient"? No. Those words don't make any sense in this context. What prevented the printing press from emerging in the Islamic world were social and ideological factors.

Environment and biology (of which doesn't actually drive human societies the way you think it does) aren't major factors in what social practices emerge or don't. The example I gave isn't like a society where everyone amputates their hands and feet but you can't reduce it to biology or the natural environment.

Similarly, if patriarchy is predominant in a society, that makes it significantly more difficult for something like polyamory to emerge. Not because "muh biology" or because patriarchy is objectively more efficient, mondo badass, than polyamory (I can't imagine scribes hand-writing every single Qu'ran was efficient or more effective) but rather because social factors also influence what does or doesn't happen. Social structures are just as much a part of the environment and just as strong of an influence as biology. Arguably, we are biologically predisposed to behave in accordance to whatever social norms, practices, or structures we find ourselves in.

Sounds more like what you're doing by obsessing over this one point of logic instead of defending your own argument. If polamory is no worse of a social structure in terms of natural selection of society, then please provide evidence for it even existing rather than claiming polyandrous societies are some sort of proof.
I already did. You just latched onto one post someone made about the Naskapi and ignored all cited evidence that other posters have given that showcased tolerance of men and women having multiple partners both in general and outside of their marriage. Citrakayah literally linked to a map which showcases every instance of an indigenuous group permitting extramartial sex among both men and women (move over the white dots). This isn't polyandry since men could also have multiple female partners.

But in the end, the competition is between different groups, because practices die out if the group who uses them dies out, is absorbed into another group, or abandons that practice for some reason (which could range from environmental stress, emulating a successful and wealthy group, etc.). You cannot separate a practice from the group which practices it.
Not really. Because multiple groups use similar or the same practices. Honestly, thinking that "groups" are like mini-states or government who are separate from other groups doesn't make sense. People form and abandon groupings all the time, its how division of labor works. If a group of workers run a factory with special techniques and go home after the day is over, the practice hasn't died off. Groups don't always stick to each other and human beings don't do the same thing every single time. Marriage ceremonies didn't suddenly die off if people haven't done them in a while because no one has gotten married yet.

Therefore, you can 100% separate a practice from the people who practice it. Furthermore, there isn't even any "competition" here because practices aren't real organisms. They are just ideas. There is no competition and many practices are mutually exclusive to each other or coexist. You mention absorption but what is more common is, historically, is that practices persist after conquest or absorption by other groups. The Persian and Alexandrian empires did this all the time. Most of those empires just changed who they directed taxes to rather than change their practices and often incorporated them into their own cultures.

In other words, practices are never monopolized by one group. That doesn't make any sense. For that to make sense, you'd have to take every single person who does a practice and put them all in one group. If you did that, the behavior of each group would be nonsensical. Groups would be simultaneously incorporating practices, opposing them, tolerating them, etc. and you can't do that all at the same time. Then you'd have to make divisions which calls into question the entire enterprise.

Well that's the thing, why did they move down from the mountain to begin with?
There is more arable land in the valley than in the mountains. Remember that land scarcity is what created the polyandry practice in the first place.

A comfortable society tends not to migrate to a radically different environment. Inevitably they'd find themselves influenced by the lowland societies, potentially one they absorbed, and very likely abandon their marital custom.
Arabs, after conquering Persia, literally imposed their lifestyle onto the urbanized Persians (often to their long-term detriment) and despite literally making their lives inefficient. Roads during the Islamic conquest literally went into disuse because horses were prioritized over the wheel. Social practices and structures, if they are deep-rooted enough, will prevent the adoption of other practices.

Also we're talking about an independent group of people farming in the lower lands and needing to maintain a connection to the mountains. This means that polyandry would be even more necessary so to maintain a connection to the mountains. The point of my example was to illustrate that social practices don't only conform to their surrounding environment but rather also place a barrier on what social practices develop.

Patriarchy is one of those social structures. I believe you can understand how this proves to be an obstacle to many other social practices.

That's because abstinence and anti-abortion are the most reasonable ideas from an evolutionary standpoint
Evolution isn't teleological. There is no intent or purpose behind it nor is it a god who dictates the lives of men. The only possible justification you could give for abstinence and anti-abortion being "evolutionary reasonable" is that they prevent STIs and death. That is the most you can say because evolution only cares about keeping people alive. And, parentage, as I will get into later, isn't a part of that. You ascribe too much intent behind a process which leads to several inefficiencies.

Abstinence ensures the paternity of a child is known (giving the father incentive to care for it), protects from STDs which can cause infertility or death, protects women from having children too young (which is more risky), makes it more likely the woman will associate with mature men who will care for her and her offspring, all sorts of things
Does it?

Societies that emphasize abstinence tend to actually higher rates of risky sex (adultery has existed since the beginning of marriage) and often wed women while they're very young. Furthermore, it has done little to prevent situations where the paternity of the child isn't known. If you wanted to prevent that, abstinence has done a terrible job of it. And, if we are biologically inclined towards abstinence as an idea, then there is no reason it should be getting any opposition. Are you suggesting we somehow have evolved suddenly? Are feminists a new kind of human being?

As for men not having an incentive to care for children that aren't biologically theirs, men adopt and take care of children that aren't theirs all the time. Are these men biologically different? Are they perverse or deviant in some way? Have they somehow transcended their biology?

Abortion kills a potential life (and anti-abortion people argue it kills an actual person), meaning without abortion more children are born to a society which should be very obvious the benefit. Now yes, infanticide was used in numerous cultures and that's analogous to abortion, but often the victims of infanticide were born deformed (or the child of infidelity) which is rather different than aborting a perfectly healthy fetus.
1. Infanticide was frequently used to get rid of perfectly healthy female children. The Qu'ran prohibits it so obviously it was a very common practice. China also practiced it as well and Europeans undoubtedly practiced it. If evolution was a sentient entity, surely it would've selected against patriarchy? Patriarchies were frequently highly oppressive and often not in the best interest of those who were a part of it.

2. Abortion kills a potential life, yes, but people who do abortions don't want their child. If they had them, I don't think that disregard would stop. Surely, if evolution was sentient, it would know that women who don't want children wouldn't want to care for them?

By the way, what was the evolutionary advantage given by cannibalism? Will you make more generalizations and ignorant assumptions about those cultures too? Ooo, how about human sacrifice? What evolutionary advantage did that give the Aztecs? I am very interested.

The reason that might be cultural inertia is because selection pressures in today's world are much reduced due to technology. We don't have to make as many complex, potentially immoral decisions to survive and thrive.
Are they really? On the contrary, in many parts of the world access to easy abortions is very hard. In that regard, shouldn't women still oppose abortion? Why are many people still opposing abortion if, due to laws and social structures, access to the technology needed to make abortions easier aren't available? Same goes for abstinence.

Monogamy might be the most advantageous for complex societies because it deals with the problem of unmarried young men lacking reason to settle down which can be plausibly blamed for revolts in Caliphate, the Taiping Rebellion, Islamist extremism (unmarried men make up a number of ISIS/Al-Qaeda fighters), incels, etc
It really can't and I can't believe, after everything I've said about Islamic polygamy, you actually believe that. Especially the part about Islamic extremism.

1. Polygamy in the Islamic world was only practiced by wealthy people and usually involved marrying the unmarriable relatives of their first wife. Typically this woman was her sister and had some sort of disability or problem which prevented her from getting married. In a society lacking in a safety net, this is necessary.

2. Most polygamous men only had one or two wives. Only Sultans or Caliphs had multiple wives and a majority of those wives were foreign. The idea that revolts in the Caliphate were caused because people kept taking the women is ignorant horseshit. This sort of stereotype about Islamic societies should have no place in a history forum.

3. Not a single revolt against any Caliphate was due to a lack of women. Every revolt has either been religious in motivation (against the preconceived decadence of a Caliph), political in motivation (either due to oppressive policies, high taxation, or racial discrimination in the case of Iran). Sometimes it was even economic in motivation (the Zanj rebellion and Bedridden's revolt). There were far too many women to go around

4. Polygamy is barely practiced in the modern Middle East and is actually looked down upon. You won't see anyone else practicing it besides one or two high-ranking Saudi nobles or a rural tribe. A majority of the men who joined ISIS, being very traditional Muslim men who, by Sharia, had to get married, were already married. Most ISIS fighter belonged to tribes who hooked them up with either a female tribal member or a slave. They certainly were not lacking in sex.

5. Incels exist in predominantly monogamous societies. How the fuck does polygamy explain why incels exist?

6. In China, polygamy was, to my knowledge, only practiced by the emperor and the royal family. There are far too many women in China to justify pretending as if the Taiping Rebellion was because the emperor took all the women. That doesn't make any sense. There are more women born on a daily basis than there are women that the emperor has married.

The problem isn't that you're trying to argue that some social practices are better than others, the problem is that you justifications are predicated upon ignorance and stupidity. The fact that you think Islamic extremism is because men don't have sex is such an offensive and shitty belief that I don't even have any words to describe how disappointed I am. I suppose unemployment, decades of colonialism, and decades of Islamic history don't matter, it's because men aren't having enough sex. Obviously. How could I be so stupid? Hell, how could every single political analyst and historian be so stupid? It's about sex guys! Extremism is caused by a lack of sex. Men who have sex would never kill other people. Obviously.

Evolution clearly is benevolent in it's commands. What a glorious god you worship!

Given that societies which practice polyandry are generally not complex, this suggests there's a very good reason why it was never an institutional practice in more complex cultures.
Do you actually know anything about the societies you're calling simplistic? You don't know anything about Islamic societies that's for certain. Both historical and modern.
 
Sure. But A. you don't need polygamy to do that and B. blood ties, as we know historically, weren't nearly the deterrent that they were always meant to be. At least in the Middle East, they were broken apart all the time. That is somewhat of my area of interest.
People disregarded blood ties at times, but that doesn't matter when they typically didn't and because people generally believed they were actually valuable. It doesn't need to be true absolutely for it to be a guiding force on society.
Not in the Middle East. And, in regards to succession wars, that has less to do with familial ties and more to do with people finding themselves with the opportunity for authority over large swathes of land and people and attempting to take that opportunity (or potentially dying as your relatives want to make sure you can't press your claim). I am pretty sure succession wars are the worst evidence of rulers caring about their families and their well-being.
Because the Habsburgs helping their relatives gain a throne and all its vast wealth is totally disregarding their well-being. People believed it was valuable, therefore in their society, it was valuable. This seems related to the insane logic that reduces religion to just a tool people used instead of something people believed in and valued and directed the politics of entire empires.
Have you actually read the link Citrakayah posted? Because there are multiple cases of men and women having multiple partners. Just within this thread, the Hawaiians were also given as examples of normalized multiple partnership. It was extra-martial sex but it was normalized and would, by all accounts, be considered polyamory by Western society.
You're trying to project modern concepts on pre-modern people. Incidental relationships being tolerated doesn't make a society polyamorous because we don't actually see these societies functioning any different than other polyandrous societies, and I'm not even sure Hawaii was even that. The late 80s vintage Handbook of North American Indians edition on the Arctic societies (Inuit and Aleuts) brings up their practice of polyandry many times, but it wasn't a dominant feature. Basically, how is this any different than the modern West which tolerates polyamory along with other non-tradition lifestyles but it isn't dominant in any way?
This assumption is predicated upon only reading the thread and taking what people say at face value. As for "exceptions to the rule", we're making TLs here. If there is a unique or never-seen before social practice and the challenge is to make it more common, there are ways to do that. If someone challenges you to make political structures like the HRE more popular, are you going to go "the HRE only existed once, there is no way to make it happen in other parts of the world!"? That doesn't make much sense.
Now this I will accept, more societies at the fringes might be able to practice polyandry in the sense of also tolerating polyamorous relationships (which appears to be the case since I still can't find evidence of an exclusively polyamorous society). But it's not something that seems feasible to exist in large swathes of land.
Yes it does. It's like saying bears outcompeted borglorfs. Borglorfs didn't exist. How do you know how they would fare in competition? You assume that, because something didn't exist, it must be impractical or impossible. That isn't the case at all. There are multitudes of reasons why many things don't exist and not all of them are because they can't "compete" (once again, thus far no one has ever defined what competition means in this context).

Alternate history is literally about pitting imaginary societies that never existed against real-life societies that did and realistically considering the consequences. You can't state "a surviving Byzantine Empire would lose WW1 because the Byzantine Empire lost in real life" because that doesn't make sense.
Which is exactly what I'm doing, hence the dramatic example of a society that believes in amputating the hands and feet of children 10-15 years old. That doesn't exist for obvious reasons, but we can assume other less provocative examples of societies don't for the same reason, just like how wheeled organisms don't exist in nature. And incidentally that might be a good example, since why you're pointing out partial exceptions in terms of polyamory, there are partial exceptions to wheeled organisms like pillbugs, but that's all they are--partial exceptions.
Not really. For instance, the printing press never emerged in the Islamic world because the Qu'ran was once printed and it was full of errors. This made the Ottoman Empire ban the printing press.

Now, did scribes outcompete the printing press here? No, of course not. Was the printing press "inefficient"? No. Those words don't make any sense in this context. What prevented the printing press from emerging in the Islamic world were social and ideological factors.
Ah, but the European world outcompeted the Islamic world in the long term, hence why they were able to partially colonise it. Evolution in cultures is dependent on a number of factors, not reducible to a simple invention.
Environment and biology (of which doesn't actually drive human societies the way you think it does) aren't major factors in what social practices emerge or don't. The example I gave isn't like a society where everyone amputates their hands and feet but you can't reduce it to biology or the natural environment.

Similarly, if patriarchy is predominant in a society, that makes it significantly more difficult for something like polyamory to emerge. Not because "muh biology" or because patriarchy is objectively more efficient, mondo badass, than polyamory (I can't imagine scribes hand-writing every single Qu'ran was efficient or more effective) but rather because social factors also influence what does or doesn't happen. Social structures are just as much a part of the environment and just as strong of an influence as biology. Arguably, we are biologically predisposed to behave in accordance to whatever social norms, practices, or structures we find ourselves in.
Sure, you can't totally reduce biology to the natural environment, but it's nonsense to try and minimize it's influence on how a society emerges. Successful societies were successful for a reason.
I already did. You just latched onto one post someone made about the Naskapi and ignored all cited evidence that other posters have given that showcased tolerance of men and women having multiple partners both in general and outside of their marriage. Citrakayah literally linked to a map which showcases every instance of an indigenuous group permitting extramartial sex among both men and women (move over the white dots). This isn't polyandry since men could also have multiple female partners.
I see that map. It correctly points out examples of people punishing adultery by women more then men (including sources I have literally read in the case of the Pacific Northwest natives), but as far as I can tell, there's no indication that these societies were necessarily encouraging adultery among either gender even if they tolerated it when it happened. Powerful women existed in many societies, and they could bend the rules. And some of the sources may be misinterpretations given two random examples from that map (the Huron and the Kazakh) are cited respectvely as a 1634 French account (which had many misinterpretations which only later generations of anthropologists put into context) and an 1885 Russian account which having read other late 19th century anthropology likely includes misunderstandings.
Not really. Because multiple groups use similar or the same practices. Honestly, thinking that "groups" are like mini-states or government who are separate from other groups doesn't make sense. People form and abandon groupings all the time, its how division of labor works. If a group of workers run a factory with special techniques and go home after the day is over, the practice hasn't died off. Groups don't always stick to each other and human beings don't do the same thing every single time. Marriage ceremonies didn't suddenly die off if people haven't done them in a while because no one has gotten married yet.
I'm using "group" in the anthropological sense of a single unit of society (and in the examples I was referring to, a band or a tribe, yes they would be "mini-states or governments" who are separate). In this case I'm absolutely right because there is competition between groups in societies. All societies have scarcity, and even if your group is a factory, then that factory is in competition with other similar factories--in today's globalised society then it's the entire planet. Maybe they compete with factories owned by the same company in the same region--if they adopt a bad practice, they are forced to change, lest they eat the cost of inefficiency which may lead to the factory closing.
Arabs, after conquering Persia, literally imposed their lifestyle onto the urbanized Persians (often to their long-term detriment) and despite literally making their lives inefficient. Roads during the Islamic conquest literally went into disuse because horses were prioritized over the wheel. Social practices and structures, if they are deep-rooted enough, will prevent the adoption of other practices.

Also we're talking about an independent group of people farming in the lower lands and needing to maintain a connection to the mountains. This means that polyandry would be even more necessary so to maintain a connection to the mountains. The point of my example was to illustrate that social practices don't only conform to their surrounding environment but rather also place a barrier on what social practices develop.

Patriarchy is one of those social structures. I believe you can understand how this proves to be an obstacle to many other social practices.
Yes, via force, ideology/religion, and literally mass migration, the Arabs enforced their lifestyle on the Persians. Converts looked toward Arab culture since Arab cultural bias is rooted in Islam. And unsuprisingly, the Arabs culturally melded with the Persians hence why "Perso-Arabic" culture dominated in many Islamic societies. And likewise unsurprisi
Does it?

Societies that emphasize abstinence tend to actually higher rates of risky sex (adultery has existed since the beginning of marriage) and often wed women while they're very young. Furthermore, it has done little to prevent situations where the paternity of the child isn't known. If you wanted to prevent that, abstinence has done a terrible job of it. And, if we are biologically inclined towards abstinence as an idea, then there is no reason it should be getting any opposition. Are you suggesting we somehow have evolved suddenly? Are feminists a new kind of human being?
Sounds like you're just talking about American abstinence-only education which I don't feel like debating the pros and cons of here. But it's interesting since people regard "shotgun marriages" as a con of abstinence-only education when from an evolutionary standpoint, that means pro-abstinence policies are working by forcing the man to provide for the woman, leaving him to the mercy of her relatives if he's a poor provider, and allowing his relatives to provide for his wife.
1. Infanticide was frequently used to get rid of perfectly healthy female children. The Qu'ran prohibits it so obviously it was a very common practice. China also practiced it as well and Europeans undoubtedly practiced it. If evolution was a sentient entity, surely it would've selected against patriarchy? Patriarchies were frequently highly oppressive and often not in the best interest of those who were a part of it.
I never argued evolution is sentient and this reads like you're assuming I'm some sort of anti-abortion activist (I've spent too much time arguing against anti-choice activists recently). But if you really think patriarchy being oppressive is somehow against evolution then I don't know what to say. Patriarchy favours a ruling class of males who are obliged to provide for the women, or else they don't get to have an heir. It's no surprise that patriarchal societies have violence between men over who gets to marry whom, or allow a male relative to use violence against an abusive in-law. Patriarchy being globally common is because men are the biologically stronger sex who can impregnate multiple women and aren't incapacitated for nine months with pregnancy.
By the way, what was the evolutionary advantage given by cannibalism? Will you make more generalizations and ignorant assumptions about those cultures too? Ooo, how about human sacrifice? What evolutionary advantage did that give the Aztecs? I am very interested.
Postclassic Mesoamerica was near the limits of population and suffered from frequent droughts, so these wars would clear out resources for the Aztecs and their allies along with acting as a devastating reinforcement of Aztec ideology to allies and enemies alike. It probably evolved from ritual cannibalism which functioned pretty the same, but in smaller scale (as seen among the Polynesians). Overcoming the cannibalism taboo seems to be a very powerful thing psychologically, as evidenced by what modern cannibals (the sort who needed to eat a comrade in a survival situation) have said, or the historic Hamatsa society in the Pacific Northwest where a sort of cannibalism was an initiation rite.
It really can't and I can't believe, after everything I've said about Islamic polygamy, you actually believe that. Especially the part about Islamic extremism.

1. Polygamy in the Islamic world was only practiced by wealthy people and usually involved marrying the unmarriable relatives of their first wife. Typically this woman was her sister and had some sort of disability or problem which prevented her from getting married. In a society lacking in a safety net, this is necessary.
Everything you state here is inaccurate given the existence of harems, concubines, female-selective infanticide, and reducing my argument to "lol sex." I don't feel like refuting it since it's just based on misunderstanding.
The problem isn't that you're trying to argue that some social practices are better than others, the problem is that you justifications are predicated upon ignorance and stupidity. The fact that you think Islamic extremism is because men don't have sex is such an offensive and shitty belief that I don't even have any words to describe how disappointed I am. I suppose unemployment, decades of colonialism, and decades of Islamic history don't matter, it's because men aren't having enough sex. Obviously. How could I be so stupid? Hell, how could every single political analyst and historian be so stupid? It's about sex guys! Extremism is caused by a lack of sex. Men who have sex would never kill other people. Obviously.
I never said that's the sole reason, it's just a cause of it, and it's one that's been noted for decades by those political analysts and historians given your average suicide bomber is an unmarried man in his 20s. Just searching the right keyword "unmarried man" "suicide bomber" brings up studies going as far back as 2003. And it's not surprising why when an unmarried man at that age is usually not responsible for supporting his parents yet also isn't responsible for supporting a wife or children. It's really not surprising why men of that age, no matter the race, society, etc., are committing more crime, dying at a higher rate, and forming the core of radical movements. If you're a Palestinian, Iraqi, etc. and are reacting to oppression by Israel, America, etc., you won't fight in the same way an older, married man might, you might really feel it's all so hopeless that being a suicide bomber is your best option so you can help out others.

Please try and understand my arguments before you call me "ignorant" or "stupid".
Evolution clearly is benevolent in it's commands. What a glorious god you worship!
LMAO I don't worship evolution, because it's not a "deity" worth worshipping.
Do you actually know anything about the societies you're calling simplistic?
Enough about them that I can judge a society as "simplistic" compared to modern Western society, which is the most complex society that has ever existed by virtue of its diversity, all-encompassing scale, and sheer scope of different relationships between people and organisations that goes into creating modern society. To put it into perspective, 10K people for the majority of human history would be an entire region of people with all sorts of lifestyles, yet now 10K people can be a single large company in a single industry in a single city.

That's obviously not to say a more complex society is "good" or a simplistic society is "bad", it's just representing facts.
You don't know anything about Islamic societies that's for certain. Both historical and modern.
Bullshit. Please don't reply to this post if you're just going to misinterpret me for whatever reason.
 
People disregarded blood ties at times, but that doesn't matter when they typically didn't and because people generally believed they were actually valuable. It doesn't need to be true absolutely for it to be a guiding force on society.
Do you have any evidence it was a guiding force in society? Perhaps a specific example could allow us to analyze whether blood ties really were highly important and a "guiding force on society".

Because the Habsburgs helping their relatives gain a throne and all its vast wealth is totally disregarding their well-being. People believed it was valuable, therefore in their society, it was valuable. This seems related to the insane logic that reduces religion to just a tool people used instead of something people believed in and valued and directed the politics of entire empires.
On the contrary I do believe that religion had an influence on politics and that the ruling class often took their religion and culture very seriously. But I don't believe that blood ties were nearly as effective as you portray them to be. The Buyid family immediately breaking apart and literally every single succession war in existence is evidence of that.

You are arguing that polygamy is evolutionarily effective (which doesn't make sense because social practices aren't organisms so "fitness" doesn't apply at all) and was effective at creating blood ties but A. Europe built its entire political structure around blood ties and didn't use polygamy at all and B. blood ties weren't sustainable as stabilizing tools anyways.

If you're arguing a practice is necessary or required then exceptions to the rule, especially if exceptions can be found in entire continents (such as Europe or Japan), then your claims make little sense. Polygamy can't be argued to be necessary for establishing blood ties (of which it wasn't even commonly used) if you could establish blood ties without polygamy. Even in the Middle East polygamous relationships with multiple women weren't for forming alliances. It turns out that wealthy families don't want their daughters be the second or third wife of someone.

You're trying to project modern concepts on pre-modern people.
Oh please. Pointing out that Westerners would call those practices polyamory (because it fits the definition) isn't projecting anything. It's like saying that comparing European kings to Islamic emirs is projecting European concepts onto the Islamic world. Practices aren't exclusive to specific cultures, there are overlaps between them.

Polyamory, by definition, is just a family structure where men and women both could have multiple partners. The indigenous societies in the map Citrakayah posted allowed for men and women to have multiple partners. By definition, we would call it polyamory. Just because we're using an English word to describe a practice doesn't make it projection anymore than translation is projection.

Incidental relationships being tolerated doesn't make a society polyamorous because we don't actually see these societies functioning any different than other polyandrous societies
Prove it? This is another unsubstantiated claim. In the map, both men and women specifically have extramarital sex. Polyandry is a practice where multiple men marry the same women. The fact that it is extramartial sex is evidence enough that we aren't looking at polyandry. Furthermore, you are only assuming that all of those indigenous groups which tolerate extramartial sex are polyandrous. You have no idea. You couldn't even name a single one of the groups represented on the map.

In a majority of the geographical locations of the indigenous peoples that permit extramartial sex, polyandry isn't even useful. Most of those locations are plains or forests, not heavily mountainous areas. Arable land is rather common. There is no incentive for polyandry. Over and over, you continue to display a significant amount of ignorance and presumptuousness in regards to how these societies function while knowing absolutely nothing about them.

If your concern is in being right, what is the point in making assumptions and pretending as if these societies were all polyandrous?

The late 80s vintage Handbook of North American Indians edition on the Arctic societies (Inuit and Aleuts) brings up their practice of polyandry many times, but it wasn't a dominant feature. Basically, how is this any different than the modern West which tolerates polyamory along with other non-tradition lifestyles but it isn't dominant in any way?
None of the groups, in the map, which practice extramartial sex were Artic societies. You clearly haven't bothered to look at the information posters who are far more knowledgeable than you have posted.

Now this I will accept, more societies at the fringes might be able to practice polyandry in the sense of also tolerating polyamorous relationships (which appears to be the case since I still can't find evidence of an exclusively polyamorous society). But it's not something that seems feasible to exist in large swathes of land.
No. It has to be popular. If people can find a way for the Monaco to take over France, you can find a way to make polyamory more popular. There have been polyamorous societies that do not practice polyandry (see the database Citrakayah posted) and polyandry is not a pre-requisite for polyamory. Biological justifications, thus far, have fallen apart throughout this thread (using that is the equivalent of using phrenology to explain why you can't make a POD for the Caliphate taking over Europe). Right now you're just denying the information (or rather refusing to look at it).

That doesn't exist for obvious reasons, but we can assume other less provocative examples of societies don't for the same reason, just like how wheeled organisms don't exist in nature. And incidentally that might be a good example, since why you're pointing out partial exceptions in terms of polyamory, there are partial exceptions to wheeled organisms like pillbugs, but that's all they are--partial exceptions.
Except that you can't because, once again, there are more factors to why something might not exist especially if it is a social practice than "inefficiency" or because human beings are biologically incapable of it. Of course, arguing that something is inefficient is very different from saying its outcompeted however dumbing reasons for non-existence down to "it wasn't effective" with "effectiveness" being undefined makes no sense.

Even you are just arguing that it doesn't exist for a reason. What that reason is, you don't know but you assume it cannot be changed or that it is ingrained (ala environmental or biological reasons). You fail to consider other alternative explanations even though you yourself state you can only speculate on the reasons why.

As for partial exceptions, precedent is used all the time in ATLs to explain why this or that could be possible. Even if there is partial precedent, writers frequently leverage that precedent to expand it fully and examine its consequences. An ATL would look at pillbugs and use that as a base for a wheeled organism; to showcase how it is possible. In the case of polyamory, we have actual examples of men and women having multiple partners being normalized in societies. That is very different from a wheeled organism.

Ah, but the European world outcompeted the Islamic world in the long term, hence why they were able to partially colonise it. Evolution in cultures is dependent on a number of factors, not reducible to a simple invention.
1. What does that have to do with the printing press? The printing press is a piece of technology. It doesn't have anything to do with Europe. China invented it before Europeans, it just didn't use it because Chinese characters were too complicated. I was asking you whether the printing press was less inefficient compared to scribes because of this context and you talk about Europe? That makes no sense.

2. Printing press is not a culture bro. It's a technology. WTF are you saying here? What does "outcompete" mean too? What is your standard for "success"? You take for granted words which you do not define and which, outside of biological contexts, mean nothing. "Competition" in biology just refers to survival. It doesn't even mean resource competition or fighting, it just means survival. If a frog survives the winter while a bug does not, the frog has "beat" the bug. And European governments colonized the Middle East. The entire society obviously didn't and was probably suffering just as much as the colonized if the predominance of socialism in Europe at the time is to be of an indication.

Sure, you can't totally reduce biology to the natural environment, but it's nonsense to try and minimize it's influence on how a society emerges. Successful societies were successful for a reason.
Ah yes, because successful societies are just biologically better than other societies.

This response does not address anything I've said. I wasn't even talking about biology but rather cultural barriers to different, new practices. Literally, the printing press example I gave is a good demonstration of this. The sanctity of the Qur'an and the difficulty of translating Arabic to printing presses led to their ban. These are cultural factors. Human biology is what allows society to emerge period. And existing practices and societies give us the tools to make a POD for more popular polyamory.

I see that map. It correctly points out examples of people punishing adultery by women more then men (including sources I have literally read in the case of the Pacific Northwest natives), but as far as I can tell, there's no indication that these societies were necessarily encouraging adultery among either gender even if they tolerated it when it happened. Powerful women existed in many societies, and they could bend the rules.

What are you talking about?

The Nama, Manchu, Chukchi, Huron, Aweikoma, Mende, Maasi, Toda, Kazakh (well apparantly one specific Kazakh tribe), Lepcha, Andamanese, Hadza, and Lesu all allow for extra-martial sex for both men and women. They don't punish adultery for women more than men (and pointing this out is irrelevant to the conversation). I think it would be projecting too much to assume that it is adultery.

Your entire argument against this being the case is "powerful women could bend the rules" which doesn't make sense since this is a standard applied to all men and women and you'd be making a huge assumption based on nothing to claim that powerful women, in every single society that allows extramartial sex, made this rule. That is a huge assumption that you're only making because the evidence doesn't conform to your existing beliefs.

And some of the sources may be misinterpretations given two random examples from that map (the Huron and the Kazakh) are cited respectvely as a 1634 French account (which had many misinterpretations which only later generations of anthropologists put into context) and an 1885 Russian account which having read other late 19th century anthropology likely includes misunderstandings.

Could you perhaps cite the specific account? I would like to read it myself. I also want to know how you know it is a French and Russian account as I couldn't find any such information on the database. I believe that this is actually a really strong argument you've made but doesn't invalidate the other examples.

Yes, via force, ideology/religion, and literally mass migration, the Arabs enforced their lifestyle on the Persians. Converts looked toward Arab culture since Arab cultural bias is rooted in Islam. And unsuprisingly, the Arabs culturally melded with the Persians hence why "Perso-Arabic" culture dominated in many Islamic societies. And likewise unsurprisi
Perso-Arabic culture only exists in Iran and its adjacent areas. It doesn't exist in the Arab world. It was also something that emerged over time and didn't exist until much later. Either way, the Arabs literally imposed inefficient cultural practices that would've otherwise been destroyed because they didn't want to get rid of them. That is evidence enough that there is no such thing as a hierarchy of "social practices" where some are better than others.

Sounds like you're just talking about American abstinence-only education which I don't feel like debating the pros and cons of here. But it's interesting since people regard "shotgun marriages" as a con of abstinence-only education when from an evolutionary standpoint, that means pro-abstinence policies are working by forcing the man to provide for the woman, leaving him to the mercy of her relatives if he's a poor provider, and allowing his relatives to provide for his wife.
I'm talking in general actually. What comes to mind is Middle Eastern societies. Furthermore, shotgun marriages are super rare. It is more rare for the man to dip than to marry the woman who they had sex with or raped.

And, if evolution was a sentient deity, surely it would've figured out that abstinence was a long term bad idea. Or, perhaps, evolution has nothing to do with social practices. Evolution might actually only apply to biology rather than human societies because, of course, human social practices don't work like organisms.

Nah, that's impossible. Evolution must be applied to everything, including stuff which it doesn't apply to. Evolution, instead of an explanation for how species emerge and change, should be a vague metaphor applied to everything because evolution clearly is the best explanation for every single thing in existence. Clearly. Join me for my dissertation on how physics emerged because life outcompeted black holes and ate their family.

Patriarchy favours a ruling class of males who are obliged to provide for the women
Lol. Ok sure. Totally.

You are absolutely assuming that evolution is sentient because you ascribe to evolution a level of intelligence it doesn't have. Evolution only applies at a species wide level and it only cares about survival. It doesn't matter whether a woman was raped and she can't provide for her child, as long as someone out there is having children then the species survives. Evolution continues to exist. It doesn't matter whether or not you have a super tough, alpha male who is super cool or sway, if they die to a falling tree they have no fitness.

And, once and for all, evolution does not apply to social practices. Social practices do not obey the dynamics of organisms because they are not organisms. Treating them as organisms and treating aggregations of organisms as single organisms is ridiculous. Evolution only explains how species change, it isn't a value system nor does it apply to anything which does not have cells.

For all intents and purposes, social practices are far too immaterial to be applied to evolution. if you apply it outside its context, all you get is a vague metaphor which you could apply to literally anything and use to justify anything. You aren't some down-to-earth realist because you apply evolution to the world like paint on a wall, you're either stupid or have been misled.

I'm using "group" in the anthropological sense of a single unit of society (and in the examples I was referring to, a band or a tribe, yes they would be "mini-states or governments" who are separate)
That isn't specific enough because tribes can be composed of multiple groups. "Groups" are artificial, they're made up. I can break down any body of people into groups. I also wouldn't call tribes governments because governments are something specific and aren't composed of the entirety of a society.

My point is that human beings are interdependent. That is what decides what groupings we should be focusing on and this interdependency makes group vis group competition make no sense. Even if you focus on scarcity, once again, scarcity doesn't go away if your group appropriates some resources. Then you have to fight inter-group and by that point I wouldn't call that one single group nor would I say there is much benefit to the grouping. It just makes no sense.

All societies have scarcity, and even if your group is a factory, then that factory is in competition with other similar factories--in today's globalised society then it's the entire planet. Maybe they compete with factories owned by the same company in the same region--if they adopt a bad practice, they are forced to change, lest they eat the cost of inefficiency which may lead to the factory closing.
Market competition, of which is informed more by property laws and exchange norms (i.e. firm-based organization), says nothing about how interdependent human beings are. A majority of capitalist scarcity isn't even real; just look at how a majority of food goes wasted because it isn't profitable to keep them on the shelves while people starve on the streets or how homes are left empty because they have value to their owners that way than if they were occupied while homelessness hits record highs. This is entirely artificial, borne out of social structures rather than nature.

And, once again, I must state that social factors influence behavior just as much as environmental factors. Conflating the two or ignoring the former doesn't change the fact that they are distinct.

It's no surprise that patriarchal societies have violence between men over who gets to marry whom, or allow a male relative to use violence against an abusive in-law. Patriarchy being globally common is because men are the biologically stronger sex who can impregnate multiple women and aren't incapacitated for nine months with pregnancy.
Patriarchy is a social structure, specifically a hierarchy. It can't be established through force. Authority is command not force. Being "stronger" means nothing, especially given how human beings are highly dependent upon other people for their survival. A man, for all intents and purposes, is incapacitated without other people. Even hermits live in proximity to towns. Women aren't the only ones dependent upon other people. Also, in nearly every patriarchal society, men do not fight other men over who gets to marry whom. Women generally get to choose and, if they don't, then men wouldn't have a reason to fight in the first place.

Patriarchy's popularity cannot be reduced to this. I suggest you find a better explanation.

Postclassic Mesoamerica was near the limits of population and suffered from frequent droughts, so these wars would clear out resources for the Aztecs and their allies along with acting as a devastating reinforcement of Aztec ideology to allies and enemies alike. It probably evolved from ritual cannibalism which functioned pretty the same, but in smaller scale (as seen among the Polynesians). Overcoming the cannibalism taboo seems to be a very powerful thing psychologically, as evidenced by what modern cannibals (the sort who needed to eat a comrade in a survival situation) have said, or the historic Hamatsa society in the Pacific Northwest where a sort of cannibalism was an initiation rite.
Who said anything about wars? I was talking about human sacrifice of which has religion reasons behind it rather than evolutionary ones. You need to explain that and also you need to provide evidence rather than armchair history.

Everything you state here is inaccurate given the existence of harems, concubines, female-selective infanticide, and reducing my argument to "lol sex." I don't feel like refuting it since it's just based on misunderstanding.
Harems only existed among rulers. Do you have any evidence of harems being popular among everyone with wealth in Islamic society? A wealthy individual would literally bankrupt themselves if they tried to have as many wives as the Ottoman sultan. A majority of concubines were foreigners rather than native Muslims. You were literally not allowed to enslave Muslims and they certainly wouldn't be wives if you did.

And female-selective infanticide is a bigger argument against you (and wasn't nearly as a big issue as you think it was). You're basically pretending that because some people practiced female-selective infanticide, this means that there were too little women to go around in the entire Muslim world which is not only completely ridiculous (because it would mean that every single baby girl who was born in the Islamic world had to be killed for several decades before it would become a problem) but also is completely false.

Female selective infanticide is literally prohibited in the Qur'an. If it was practiced, it was not practiced enough to completely reduce the number of women in the Middle East. It is even less practiced in contemporary times. There is absolutely no possible way polygamy is the main reason for social unrest throughout Islamic history. The minute Islam emerged, it would be impossible.

I never said that's the sole reason, it's just a cause of it
It isn't though. The Zanj Rebellion was a slave rebellion caused by the maltreatment of slaves in the swamps of Iraq. The Abbasid revolts were against the tyrannies of the Mut'azila. Polygamy barely existed during the emergence of ISIS.

You have no evidence for your claim, you're just talking out of your ass and coasting off of Western stereotypes about Muslim societies hoping no one calls you out. And then you assume I'm the dumbass for questioning your claims when all evidence points to polygamy not even being common during its heyday let alone in 2014.

nd it's one that's been noted for decades by those political analysts and historians given your average suicide bomber is an unmarried man in his 20s.
So? Most reactionaries are unmarried? Does America practice polygamy because most shooters are unmarried? When you consider that these studies are done on suicide bombers in foreign countries rather than in the Islamic world, it is clear that the data is skewed.

Also, ISIS fighters are very different from suicide bombers. Most of them are affiliated with tribes and are married. Furthermore, obviously a young person is more likely to take on risky behavior than older people. Most anarchists in 20th century Europe were young but had relationships (whether they were married or not is another question) and yet bombed cafes anyways.

Please try and understand my arguments before you call me "ignorant" or "stupid".

You're moving goalposts. You said polygamy caused this. You said, and I quote:
Monogamy might be the most advantageous for complex societies because it deals with the problem of unmarried young men lacking reason to settle down which can be plausibly blamed for revolts in Caliphate, the Taiping Rebellion, Islamist extremism (unmarried men make up a number of ISIS/Al-Qaeda fighters), incels, etc
Which obviously indicates that, if Middle Eastern societies were monogamous, they would not have these problems. However, nearly every revolt in the Caliphate had nothing to do with polygamy nor is polygamy even common enough in the contemporary Middle East to explain Islamist extremism. You backpedaled and made an argument completely different from what you initially said.

Enough about them that I can judge a society as "simplistic" compared to modern Western society, which is the most complex society that has ever existed by virtue of its diversity, all-encompassing scale, and sheer scope of different relationships between people and organisations that goes into creating modern society.
So what? It's more complex because there are more people involved? Really? Your standard for complexity is very low.

Bullshit. Please don't reply to this post if you're just going to misinterpret me for whatever reason.
Bro you think everyone had multiple wives. That is evidence enough you don't know jack shit. You think Islamist extremism is caused because Islamic societies weren't monogamous (when, by the time ISIS came around, no one was polygamous). You're completely out of your depth.
 
Enough about them that I can judge a society as "simplistic" compared to modern Western society, which is the most complex society that has ever existed by virtue of its diversity, all-encompassing scale, and sheer scope of different relationships between people and organisations that goes into creating modern society. To put it into perspective, 10K people for the majority of human history would be an entire region of people with all sorts of lifestyles, yet now 10K people can be a single large company in a single industry in a single city.
If you don't mind explaining this a bit more - is it just the sheer size here, or more (pardon the word) complicated?

Wanting to make sure I understand your point.
 
Absence of large scale polyamory is probably to do with sexual jealousy and paternal investment. Sure some people don't care but so what, some people are sociopaths or paedophiles or autistic, you get statistically unlikely personalities in every population. You should be looking at the statistical averages.

Also inter-male competition as well, due to status differentials.

The pooling capital argument makes no sense because you don't need sexual/romantic relations to do that, you can just form coalitions. At which point you've just recreated in the ingroup nepotism (ethnic, religious, political, fraternal, familial etc) that has existed since the dawn of humanity. So I have no idea why this would encourage polyamory. You'd be more likely to see male dominated relationships (polygyny) as males share partners to form the ties necessary for coalitions i.e what happens in quite a few places.
I see that map. It correctly points out examples of people punishing adultery by women more then men (including sources I have literally read in the case of the Pacific Northwest natives), but as far as I can tell, there's no indication that these societies were necessarily encouraging adultery among either gender even if they tolerated it when it happened. Powerful women existed in many societies, and they could bend the rules. And some of the sources may be misinterpretations given two random examples from that map (the Huron and the Kazakh) are cited respectvely as a 1634 French account (which had many misinterpretations which only later generations of anthropologists put into context) and an 1885 Russian account which having read other late 19th century anthropology likely includes misunderstandings.

I would also note there are only 13 which don't have a double standard as well, with the rest favouring males or it's forbidden.

I suspect it's more complicated on the ground as well, like those societies that allegedly lack violence and are all pacifists except they actually don't (e.g the Semai). Never take anthropologists at their word, they're too unreliable.
 
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Do you think polyamory makes more sense in nomadic groups than sedentary groups?
I don't think I have enough information to say. Based off what I know, though, I don't think so. I think a lot of people assume that polyamory wouldn't work in sedentary groups because of how inheritance works--if paternity isn't certain, how can a father's sons inherit his land? But this assumes a certain model of inheritance that wouldn't apply to a matrilineal society. It's also possible that a local government could distribute land to people after someone died; as I understand this has happened in some societies and they were fairly successful.
I've always heard societies like the Naskapi, that one group in highland Southeast Asia (can't recall their name), etc. referred to as polyandry and all of them share the commonality of being at the margins. It appears to have been limited to hunter-gatherers in VERY rugged where because of high male death rates it was advantageous for a woman to have multiple husbands because it improved the welfare of children, although in other very rugged areas we don't see this sort of society emerge. I don't think it's "polyamory" either as the modern world understands it since I haven't encountered references to the men married to the woman also having multiple wives of their own. Maybe it happened, given in analogous marginal hunter-gatherer societies, a man with more than one wife was rare because it took too many resources, but it probably was considered unusual given its rarity.
What about the Amazonian societies that I cited? By one calculation (granted, one that is almost certainly biased upwards), 70% of lowland Amazonian societies believe in partible paternity. As far as I can tell, those men are mating with multiple women. The lowland Amazon is not exactly marginal territory; in pre-Columbian times parts were fairly densely populated. If this form of relationship is so unsuitable, why does it seem to be so common in South America? Surely how common it is there demonstrates that, even though it wasn't common, it could have been. Many of these people were agriculturalists, too, not hunter-gatherers.

And it seems to result in some practical benefits compared to monoandry, too--there's higher survival for children with multiple fathers.
Can you actually prove to me that polyamory exists in premodern societies without projecting current concepts of polyamory on these societies? The cases are pretty much always "multiple men marry and provide for the same woman" and not an amorphous group of men and women who freely have sex with each other. If no (or extremely few) polyamorous societies (in contrast to polyandrous societies) exist, then there must be a very good reason for it, similar to how a truly matriarchal (as a counterpart to patriarchal) society does not exist.
While I take your point, I think that if we'd call it polyamory if modern white people were doing it, we can safely call it polyamory if other people are doing it. We should be aware of the cross-cultural differences, but we shouldn't pretend that a practice with very similar analogs in other societies is somehow novel to the modern West.
 
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