Interesting on the male to female ratio.I don't mind nitpickingBut remember that there's ongoing immigration, mainly of adult males here. I believe there was something like a 3:2 male to female ratio in New England at least.
Well, nitpicking for nitpicking's own sake seemed like a waste of time when I have an actual question - where would anyone who is leaving (voluntarily) go?
Our best guide is that about 70,000 loyalists left, through a mixture of choice and harassment, but they were given land and other things in a safe area just over the border in New Brunswick. The Patriot population is slightly larger, but doesn't have anywhere safe to go really. The frontier is the most obvious place, but women will be resistent to that and I can't imagine the British wanting them able to found new states to attack them from inland.
At best, I can imagine 20,000-30,000 doing a Boer trek of sorts. Kentucky seems the most likely option, as the British can project power from the coasts and the Great Lakes.
Kentucky is frontier, I presume this is being considered.
Would it be possible for them to head even further west? That has all sorts of issues, obviously, and Louisiana is supposedly French territory - but that might actually be a plus in some senses.