Many historians blame the two royals distain on Princess Victoria of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld's private secretary, John Conroy. Who was believe to have influenced the widowed Princess and trying to groom the younger Princess Alexandria Victoria, into being a queen who would have Conroy act as Regent, with events such as:
- Pressuring Princess Alexandria Victoria to sign a paper declaring Conroy her personal secretary
- Enforcing the elaborate and oppressive system of rules regulating every facet of Victoria's life
- Creating a reclusive and isolated environment for Princess Alexandria Victoria, most of the time, with the goal of making her weak, compliant and making her utterly dependent upon her mother and thus in turn, John Conroy.
- And even going as far as to ignore and insult Princess Alexandria Victoria in front of her mother.
Backing up this theory.
The reconciliation, between mother and daughter began with the birth of Princess Royal, Victoria. Princess Victoria of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld became a doting grandmother, by all accounts, and was closer to her daughter than she ever had been
The best way, in my opinion, for the Victoria to feel truly loved by her mother, is by having a one-to-one relationship with her, without any political minded third party.