Well Alexander was already learning that and quite well (the weddings of Susa are a masterclass in that) from his adoptive mother and grandmother-in-law aka Queen-Mother Sysygambis, the mother of Darius.Is it possible to learn this power?
Not from a satrap.
Really the destruction of the Empire was so unlikely who is strange it happened, because for that level of destruction needed the death (or impossibity to take the power) of many people: Alexander and Hephaistion (both dead without heirs from their persian wives and Roxane do not count, because she was not Persian and had zero power base), Sysygambis who let herself dying after hearing of Alexander's death (and likely understanding who her grandaughter(s) were also dead), Stateira and Drypteis (marrying either of them wuold have granded a lot of uncontested power in Persia to any of Alexander's companions), were dead while Krateros (who was likely the one to which Alexander wanted to left his ring and the regency and was married to the other grandaughter of Sysygambis and niece of Darius) was in the worst place possible at Alexander's death being in the middle of the journey between the Persian court and the Macedonia of which he was designated regent so he was not in power in either place and was forced to marry a daughter of Antipater (and so renounce to the persian princess because Antipater wanted for his fully macedonian daughter to be the chief wife and Amestris refuted to be a secondary one). Without all of this deaths (or with Krateros in power in either Persia or Macedonia, or children by any of the persian princesses) that level of destruction of the Empire is really unlikely