I've long been thinking about how social norms may evolve PAST the 1970s ITTL. By that point in the UASR, polyamory and other things may become the norm. But what comes after all that you ask?
Well, that's what I intend to answer, along with a call back to my previous attempt at answering the question:
Rethinking The Family: The Rise of The Kollontaian Community
January 15, 2017
Alexandra Kollontai is name long synonymous with socialist feminism, hence the term "Kollontaian" being ascribed to anything in the liberation of woman. Before her diplomatic career, Kollontai had created some of the first state-sanctioned family planning institutions in the world in 1919, during the early years of the fledgling Soviet state. These institutions were later closed down during the Stalin years, but she would soon find an audience for her ideas in the UASR during the First Cultural Revolution of the 1930s, when birth control and contraception became the norm.
In her writing, however, Kollontai went beyond merely advocating for women's rights, often criticizing the continued maintenance of traditional families, and believed that a true communist state could only be achieved through the end of the family (But contrary to popular belief, she never advocated for free love).
Kollontai, when she died in 1952, would die not knowing how far her ideas would go. But it would not be in her native Rossiya that would provide the atmosphere for it to grow.
During the Second Cultural Revolution, more and more taboos continued to breakdown. Open marriages, single mothers, and polyamory would become acceptable behavior by the end of the 1960s. And caretakers became accepted parts of family life. But the old idea of family, with parents and their offspring, continued to persist in society, until the infamous
Purdy-Hirsch Custody battle would forever redefine family law.
By declaring family an emotional and social bond, rather than anything forged by blood, the custody case pushed whole communities into challenging family structures and abandoning them.
The first community to declare what we consider to be a Kollontaian family (the term not being officially defined until Betty Friedan's 1980 book
The Community) was the town of Whittier, Alaska. In 1974, the community did something remarkable: it abolished maternal and paternal ties between children and their parents, and married couples abandoned marriage ties. In a sense, every child became brother and sister, and every adult became a spouse. Perhaps no place was better prepared for this change, as its residents were already living under one roof. Literally, the entire community of little over 100 people lived and worked under one building, the Hodge Building [1]. Shopkeeper and customer, and teacher and student were at best only a few floors away, so it is no surprise that such a change was easily accepted.
By 1979, 900 communities, in places as faraway as Miami and Cheyenne, had banned old family practices as Whittier. But it would be in the most unlikely place where Kollontaian family would proliferate: Utah.
Utah's Mormons have always had a very rocky relationship with social revolution. Many Latter Day communities have (and still) discourage the consumption of alcohol, caffeine, and soft drugs. It was not until 1964 [2] that African-Americans were allowed to become priests, and the Mormon church refused to recognize homosexual unions until 1974.
But at other times, Mormons have been seemingly the most radical. Before the late 19th century, Mormons allowed polygamy almost a century before the First and Second Cultural Revolution passed them into law, and Utah was only the second territory in the nation to allow woman's suffrage in 1870. However in 1887, the old bourgeois republic, still controlled by those who lived under archaic forms of family, passed the 1887 Edmunds-Tucker Act, which not only banned polygamy, but temporarily ended the franchise for women [3] Mormon leaders were forced to abandon their beliefs in order to be allowed to join the old union.
But with the rise of the Second Cultural Revolution, otherwise reactionary figures in the Latter Day Church began embracing polygamy. Finally in 1973, Latter Day President Harold B. Lee, claiming to have had a new revelation , wrote that "Abraham, himself a servant of God, had many wives, and thus marrying man can never deter one's service of the Lord." [4]
Mormons, however, was still slow to return to state of the Great Salt Lake, until
The Community brought the Kollontaian family to national attention, and soon Mormons began embracing polygamy and Kollontaian values.
In 1981, the first Kollontaian-Mormon community had been established in Altamont, Utah, with 27 adults (8 fathers, 19 mothers) and 200 children. The success of the community led to its rapid growth, as more Mormons adapted to the lifestyle long abandoned. By 1990, nearly 10 percent of children in Utah were in a Kollontaian community.
By that time, a scandal had brought the darker side to the ideals of the community. Warren Jeffs, a radical Latter-Day Saints priest, had been arrested for molesting and indoctrinating hundreds of girls in the Kollontaian family he had built in the town of Aurora. The scandal forced the Debs government to finally legally recognize Kollontaian families and communities, passing laws that allowed them, but strongly regulating them to prevent such abuses and to allow children who came of age to leave such a family if they choose to do so. The laws also established Kollontaian relationships as being 5 or more spouses, with polygamy being set at "3-4 spouses".
In spite of the scandal, the growth of the Kollontaian family continued. By 2015, it was estimated that 3.5 percent of children in the UASR were part of the Kollontaian family [5], and in Utah, the percentage had risen to 30 percent.
Decades after her death, Kollontai's writings have indeed transformed social relations in the Comintern, as more and more people have all but abandoned the social ties in favor of treating their entire community as a single unit.
[1] The OTL name is the Begich building, named after an Alaskan Congressman who had been killed in a plane crash.
Here's a video if you're interested.
[2] OTL, it was 1978.
[3] Yes, that was true. Nothing would underscore the hypocrisy of anti-polygamists in the 19th century and their own misogyny.
[4] I paraphrased that from Joseph Smith's own OTL "revelation" about polygamy.
[5] 2-3 million children, by my calculation based on OTL census figures.