I am not sure where you get your numbers. I guess ration strength includes foreign auxiliaries and POWs. According to the US bureau of census at its WW2 peak the US armed forces had a strength of 11 430 000 (less than 10% of population). At its peak the total workforce was 66 040 000, 29.2% of them women. Moreover the unemployment rate remained constantly over 1%. I realise that some things the Germans did, like relying almost entirely on women and 19th century methods for food production, would work less well under different conditions. But the fact remains that the US was by any standard incredibly wasteful with the use of its resources. There were a number of methods how they could have mobilised considerably more men without economic collapse. For instance the German armed forces rose to more than 10% women even before the collapse in 45 (exact numbers are a bit difficult, as the distinction between various classifications of occupations in statistics overlap), the USA did not even reach 5%. And the German female auxiliaries did have considerably more responsibilities. Some rear echelon staffs were close to 90% female and most of the 39 EK IIs given to women went to "nurses" which at least in that instance acted as combat medics. In the US there was neither the political will nor more important the need to do so, which overrode in Germany ideological preconceptions. Tighter rations is another field where the US had room to save resources and with it work. According to German Pows the combat rations they got from US forces were better than peacetime meals for a German middle class family pre-war. Saying the US had mobilised to the maximum extent practical is simply not true. Why should they do more though?
Actually, U.S. Census data indicates 16.1 million served during the war.
http://www.census.gov/prod/1/gen/95statab/defense.pdf Page 366 Table 569
Not sure why I recalled it at 18 million.
Regarding reducing food production this is one of those "wolf at the door" actions that can be taken in extreme cases. It is, however, worth keeping in mind that the U.S. was not just the Arsenal of Democracy, it was also the pantry with American foodstuffs going across the entire grand coalition opposing the Axis.
The same goes for what effectively is a female draft to free men for combat duty, although the fact is that a significant number of men were simply not physically capable of performing in combat roles at least from the perspective of the U.S. military (the Great Depression had serious effects on nutrition across large segments of society with the expected impact on the size and health of children who grew up in the era). Other combatants, who did not have the luxury of choice, the Red Army being the best example, swept up anyone with a pulse and a majority of their limbs
The U.S. could, by the same token, have increased ration strength by telling the rest of the grand coalition to produce their own goods, materials, and equipment thereby freeing up a considerable number of men for service. Might have lost the war that way, or extended it for a few years, but it was possible.
The bottom line is still the same. Without significant cultural and political changes, far beyond those that actually occurred (and those were revolutionary in scope) and far beyond those sensible and required simply to meet a notional "100 division" goal, the U.S. was at the bottom of the manpower barrel.