You'd need to go back a lot further than 1800-ish to let China industrialize at the same time NW Europe did. Industrialization itself requires several aspects of society to be exactly right (or nearly so) to allow it to take root:
cultural (comparatively low class bigotry, giving lower-class but intelligent people the chance to prove their worth to social superiors), affirming a certain minimum of worth for the law-abiding lowest of the low (no caste system as such, like India had). Sure, it wasn't the present-day Western world, but as said there still was a certain bottom limit as to how badly you thought of your lessers without getting severe scorn (if not legal penalties) for it.
governmental (tough bankruptcy laws, government that allows private enterprise to flourish at least marginally well, saying nobody - not even the king/emperor - is above the law, consistently enforced - if not wide selection - of at least the bare bones of civil liberties, a certain minimum of non-interference of academics and intellectuals in matters of philosophy and science, and so forth)
financial - reasonable guarantee that the money you have today will be worth the same ten years from now, people with money willing to lend it out at a reasonable rate of interest for a reasonable time period, and governmental and business institutions in place to help facilitate this).
intellectual - not too harsh a condemnation of people who think well outside the mainstream, and even better if government usually won't harass much the dissidents.
geographic - no gurarantee, but China has a fairly smooth coastline compared to Europe. That stimulated maritime development less than in Europe. Europe's heavily indended coastine not only motivated nautical development, but more or less invited political disunity - enough to foster competitive nation-states but not so much that it hindered exchange of ideas from nation to nation. Britain especially benefitted from this. With a strong navy to protect it, plus seaborne invasions being difficult, that let Britain devote more funds to actual productive and enriching purposes.