Any PoD that makes the Dutch settlers more powerful than the English would begin, at minimum, 200 years before Napoleon. So I'm guessing you just mean "any later European continental war"?
To achieve this challenge, you have to keep the English/British settlers away from America. Once the waves of settlers started coming, the British colonies' path toward continental domination was just about inevitable, because of demographics alone. The Dutch (and French) went to the colonies in numbers that were tiny compared with the English. There were major population dynamics in England at the time that led such huge numbers to emigrate.
Is there any way that most of these English could instead settle in Ireland? Maybe some plague in the late 16th century that severely depopulates the island. The Irish Plantations then get a much larger, more stable population of English colonists. Many of the early English colonial leaders then occupy themselves in Ireland rather than America. In this scenario, Virginia might still host some English outposts that are seen mainly as pirate bases for raiding Spanish shipping.
Then, the Dutch found New Netherland and claim much of the eastern seaboard. They welcome many English Puritans, who settle in the colony under the Dutch flag. They, together with the Germans, Huguenots, and Scandinavians who moved to New Netherland in OTL, could give the colony a better demographic base.
Some kind of Anglo-Dutch Wars are probably still going to happen, but just have a few key battles tip away from the English, and have the Dutch surrender possessions other than New Netherland.